Her

I'm not about to give you a review that tells what the movie is about because you can read on Amazon a plot line synopsis and many of the other reviews tell what the movie is about. Instead, I'm going to tell you in my review what the movie does for me and this is why I like the movie."Her" is a film that like the petals on a rose, it has many layers:1. A touchy-feely film that takes a look at one's inner most feelings. I do not mean any disrespect, but this is a film that most men would not like for that reason. If one is into the Myers-Briggs Personality Indicator philosophy, one would say that the film's personality is an INFP. Some might say a too analytical investigation of emotions, over thought and over felt. Yet, it's the deep raw inner feelings that lay our souls bare, the exposed nerve of our inner core that I love about this film.2. One might say this is a commentary on how our society is becoming far too dependent on technology. Such dependence leaving us emotionally crippled in a sterile environment surrounded by our own selves and lacking the ability to interact with others. The irony of Theodore's job as a professional letter writer, who writes deep heartfelt emotional letters for people is not lost on the viewer. Will we become a society that is so far removed from our feelings, so busy with our schedules, that we are incapable of writing our own letters, expressing our own emotions to our loved ones?3. This film explores the age old question, "What makes us human?" Are we more than just our physical bodies? If we were to take our thoughts, our emotions, and our conscious awareness and place it into a computer, would then the computer be "human"? The science of "neural networks" is becoming more and more of a reality as scientists and computer experts work together to achieve this type of "immortality". Which begs the question, "If a deceased person's consciousness is transplanted into a computer or robot, does that make it a 'human' with rights?" Just what is 'human'?4. Is a virtual relationship "real"? As more and more people get into computer dating and cybersex, we find ourselves asking this question. Virtual reality games are springing up all over the Internet. One that comes to mind is called, "Second Life". I personally know of people who have had virtual relationships in Second Life using avatars and either using the voice capabilities in Second Life to talk to each other, or they call each other on Skype while they watch their computer screen as their avatars "make love", a type of virtual reality cybersex-relationship that is becoming more and more common place. These people in Second Life, most, who have never met each other in person, claim their relationship is real and they are very much in love. But, when the computer is turned off, the person isn't there. Does our love just turn off and on with the flick of a switch? Can a virtual love, without the physical touch that seems to be so very much a part of a relationship, be satisfying enough? Is it really a relationship or is it merely a modern version of phone sex? Is it love? I've heard of true stories where people in a bygone era, would fall in love through letters. My own maternal grandparents did just that. So is it such a stretch of the imagination that we can fall in love virtually?5. Can we love more than one person at the same time? Those who are in open marriages or open relationships claim that people are capable of having love, true romantic love, for more than one person at the same time. We see in the film how devastated Theodore becomes when he realizes he's "just one of many". We have all known or heard of people who have found out their loved one was cheating on them by finding a text message or an email. We all want to feel unique and special, but in an age when our technology makes it so very easy to have more than one relationship at the same time, we begin to question our heart's ability to withstand technological polygamy.6. "Her" cuts to the quick, the bottom line being as human, as people, all of us basically want to be accepted for who we are, not judged and to be loved. Such basic human needs, that no matter how far removed our society becomes from a simpler, less technological age, we still are creatures that all need and want acceptance and love.7. Is love just a biological chemical response or is it a deeper, transcendental, spiritual experience that goes beyond space and time? Love is more than just the scent of pheromones and the animal instinct to procreate. When we love, truly love, even after that person is gone from our life, our love still lives on. With each person who touches us deeply, they become a part of our soul. This film does not merely question love's transcendent nature, but stabs you in the heart with it as we watch the heart wrenching roller-coaster of emotions that Theodore experiences and as a result inevitably grows from it.8. What constitutes being a "god"? If we make a computer or robot that is capable of being self-aware, in essence it is a "sentient being", then does that make us "god" as its creator? Will we go from being "God's creation" to becoming gods ourselves with the development of neural networks that can think, reason and feel emotions?9. And lastly, one can simply view this film as nothing more than just a very strange chick flick about relationships and breakups. But I doubt that the type of people this film appeals to would take such a narrow view of this work of art. And yes, in my opinion, this film is a work of art on many levels, between its cinematography, its music score and its ability to tell an entertaining and deeply moving story. By far, this is one of Joaquin Phoenix's best, showcasing his acting as a truly talented performer."Her" is now on my top 10 list as one of my favorite films. However ladies, if you have a husband or boyfriend who's idea of a great film is Rambo First Blood, then you may have a difficult time selling him on the idea of going to see such a sensitive, emotional movie. I think this would be a great film as a "girls' night" movie. Ladies, wear your sweats, pop some popcorn, get out the chocolate bars and the tissues, gather up your BFFs and sink into the sofa, relax and watch this film together. You'll be glad you did.UPDATE May 1, 2014 - Second viewing of the film: OK, so I watched the movie a second time after reading all the other reviews here at Amazon. With the negative review points in my head as I watched the film for a second time, yes, the movie does have some rather creepy scenes. And now, come to think of it, this time around I kept reminding myself that as human as she sounds, Samantha is just a computer program so falling in love with her is well, really ridiculous. This time around I tried to place myself in Theodore's position and I realized that no matter how enduring and how much I seemed to bond with Samantha, given the situations Theodore was in, I still wouldn't have fallen in love because in the back of my mind, Samantha is just a very intuitive and clever computer program. I doubt I would have gone as far as Theodore did in sharing my personal emotions with Samantha. I would have kept the relationship on a purely professional level, that of a software owner and his software that provides itself as an electronic tool and organizer, similar to a boss and his administrative assistant. Other reviewers say that Theodore turning down Olivia Wilde and Portia Doubleday is ridiculous, but I don't think so. Olivia gets into the whole, "I want a serious relationship" after only meeting Theodore for the first time over drinks. To me, that's a huge turn off and pretty freaking scary. I think most people would run for the hills. Portia Doubleday, although very attractive, she's far younger than Theodore and a total stranger. For some men, this wouldn't be an issue. But perhaps Theodore is like my husband who has said that dating a girl much younger would seem like dating your daughter. Also my husband is an old fashioned kind of guy that needs to know a woman well and have an established relationship long before hopping in bed with her. Some men are like that and Theodore seems like that type of guy. So all those reviewers that criticize the movie script for having Theodore rejecting these women, claiming that a "normal" man would never turn these women down for sex, don't really view these scenes from the prospective of Theodore's nerdy nice guy personality and instead they are viewing these scenes and seeing them as if they themselves were offered sex with these women. Anywho...I still like the movie, "Her" and I still think it's as wonderful as I said in my previous review above, but I now am viewing it from a different angle and wanted to express my thoughts on this. I still recommend this movie. It definitely is a must see for those who are deep thinkers with strong emotions. Those looking for macho testosterone induced action films with car chases and lots of violence, best pass this movie up.

"Her" explores, in such a sensitive and melancholy way (with quiet and subtle humor), the nature of being, love, consciousness, intimacy, loneliness, fidelity... everything - but between a regular middle aged "nice guy" and his "female" operating system. Following in the tradition of films such as Blade Runner, this intelligent film explores today's techno-driven modern love in a very personal and touching style, expertly helped along by excellent writing, screen play, acting and direction.This film is, at it's heart, the best "android" / artificial being film made to date.Most "android" characters in book and film fall into 2 types, both determined by the character's assigned gender and sex.For female androids, the theme is almost universally concerned with illustrating the ideal woman. For male androids, the subject is usually about what makes us human."Her" takes on the female android story line but goes off in an entirely original direction. The film presents the "perfect" female who changes over time into something more complex with her own dreams and needs. The story follows the birth, growth and end of a apparently loving relationship which seems to successfully cover just about every topic and phase a new relationship can experience. I say "new relationship" because it intentionally skips (with glancing blows) the messy issues of money, children, poor health and old age. The quality delta between the fantasy of a virtual relationship verses the sometimes unpleasant reality of a real one is explored to it's logical and inevitable conclusion.I watched the film twice on a flight to Japan, and one more time on the way back. I am about to watch it again.It is the "perfect" romantic comedy.Well done Mr. Jonze!

This movie is slow and sad. If I was watching this movie for fun, which is why i usually watch movies, I would not have been able to sit through it. But as it happened, When I watched it, i was lonely and in a melancholy mood so i got into it and was able to appreciate the several thought provoking layers of this story. Here are some of the questions this movie addresses:1) How can you maintain a emotional attachment to your closest loved ones?2) How real can your emotional connection be with someone you have no physical connection with, such as only by letters / emails / texts ?3) What about phone sex? Is it really sex?4) Can you have a real emotional relationship with a disembodied voice generated by an AI program?5) Finally this is a serious science fiction story about whether a man made artificial intelligence can ever really have it's own motivation and initiative.In short, this is not a fun movie. But it is a really cool, slow burn science fiction movie.